Inspired by this post by Elizabeth...
Best - Going to New York all by myself for 5 whole days. Man, did I need that. No responsibilities to anyone but myself. A chance to have a little fun and see old friends. A chance be artistic and perform purely for the love of the music and the experience.
Worst - Going to New York all by myself for 5 whole days. Not only did I worry about Jimmy and Jude the whole time, but I kept wishing that they could be with me to experience what I was doing. I think it would have made Jude super proud to see/hear our performance. And we would have had a fun time as a family.
Best - Finding that Jimmy cleaned the house while I was out of town. Made a huge difference coming home to a semi-tidy house.
Worst - Finding that Jimmy cleaned the house while I was out of town. Hopefully, I will have located all of the things which he "tidied" to the wrong place by next year or so. The cabinets in the kitchen are mayhem. Nothing is where it belongs. The towels have been washed and put in the linen closet, but instead of being folded neatly, they have simply been wadded up and stuffed on the shelves. And the vacuum cleaner seems to have been used to suck up some rather large item, and is now not working at all.
Best - Being extremely involved at Jude's school. I truly love being that mom. The one who is always down at school, and helps run things. I love knowing and being known by the principal and all the teachers. I love being there for him, and he actually encourages me to do more, and get even more involved. I know that soon he will want me to be nowhere near him, so I intend to milk this as long as I can.
Worst - Being extremely involved at Jude's school. It's all I stinking do. Today, right on the heels of my week-long Book Fair, I am running a Used Book Sale to benefit the library. I seem to be the Book Mommy. Which is a cool thing to be, but still...
Best - Owning a home. I'll never forget the day when I was struggling to make my way from our apartment down to the washer/dryer in the basement, juggling baby Jude strapped in his Baby Bjorn, a massive bag of dirty towels, and a handful of quarters, and I collapsed in a puddle of tears and decided that it was finally time to buy a house. Our house is very small, but it is sweet, and we are extremely lucky to have bought it when we did, and with our peculiar and always-fluctuating work/finance situation (actors never have steady work, so getting a loan can be difficult). And it has managed to maintain its value in the freaky LA housing market. And every time I use the washer/dryer I give up a prayer of thanks.
Worst - Owning a home. Dang, I miss the days of just calling the landlord when something breaks and having their people show up and fix it for free. And of having all of the building maintenance taken care of by someone else. Our little house is in desperate need of a paint job, and it's just so dang expensive!
Best - Cooking dinner for my family every night. I love cooking. I really do. I consider it an art. An extremely creative and nurturing art. I love planning a menu and shopping for ingredients and cooking a meal. I love improvising a meal from whatever I have on hand. I love feeding Jimmy and Jude and having them love what I have made for them. Every time I cook, for the last 20 years, Jimmy has said to me "It's delicious, honey." It's our little thing. And I love it.
Worst - Cooking dinner for my family every night. Some nights I just DO NOT WANT TO MOVE, let alone get in that kitchen and work. Sometimes I just want somebody to take me out to dinner!
Best - Becoming an old woman. There is a freedom in aging - I'm never going to look as good as I used to, so I don't really need to put forth that much effort anymore. And an old broad can say whatever she wants. It's true! I suddenly just blurt out truths that I would never have shared in the past. And I keep finding myself boldly disregarding the rules and doing what I want to do. I'm sure now that nobody is hanging out with me because I'm good-looking, but simply because they like my company. I'd like to be an old woman for a very long time. And as they say, it's better than the alternative.
Worst - Becoming an old woman. I am never the cutest one in the room any more. Men do not check me out any more. Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror, or at a picture of myself, and I'm stunned by what I see. Where did my mother come from? I suddenly have weird parts - those wobbly old-lady triceps, crepey skin on my decolletage, an extra chin. And worst of all, I get so tired. When I run, my joints hurt. As Bette Davis said, "Old age is no place for sissies." Luckily, I've always been pretty tough.
Best - Writing this blog. I genuinely feel that writing this blog has changed my life for the positive. It's a forum in which to express myself. It's a way in which to connect to the greater world around me. It's an opportunity to stop and look at and examine the events of my life, and see them from a healthy perspective and maybe laugh at myself a bit. It has undoubtedly helped me become a better and much more confident writer. And it's been an incredible opportunity to meet and get to know (sometimes in person, but mostly in cyberspace) a huge variety of amazing people from across the nation.
Worst - Writing this blog. It can be a drudge. I admit it. But I feel that my recent "blog every day of the month" experiment really did free me from feeling that the blog is a commitment that I am chained to. I finally feel that I can write if I want, and don't write if I don't want. But I have to say that usually? I want. So thank you all for reading my ramblings!
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Next week on The Spin Cycle...
Nain at View From Down Here suggested this, and I love the idea!
It's June. It's graduation time of year. What would you say if you were asked to give a Commencement Speech? Do you have a thing or two you would like to say to the youth of America? Would you inspire? Would you empower? Would you hand out tough love? Would you say what you wish you'd heard back when you were sent out into the world?
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